A lot of people get married and live happily ever after, but that’s not always the case. Sometimes marriages go stale or worse yet, sour. And when you start to feel like your marriage is in a rut it can be hard to know how to make things better again. But fear not! There are many ways for couples who have lost that spark to reconnect and fall in love all over again.
It’s no secret that relationships take work. But what happens when you feel like you’re doing all the work and your husband seems distant or uninterested? This can be a really tough situation to deal with, but don’t worry, you can get the spark back in your marriage!
In this blog post, we will discuss 9 tips on how to reconnect with your husband and reignite the passion in your relationship.
Understand What The “Spark” Is In A Marriage and How To Get It Back
The “spark” as its referred to, is that feeling of excitement and attraction that you experience just being around each other. And over the years it is quite common for this spark to fade, sometimes completely.
Marriage is a journey, and like any good journey, it has its ups and downs. But when you see the light at the end of the tunnel, it’s worth all the effort to get there. The key to making your marriage last for years is not about never having problems but figuring out how to work through them together as partners in life.
One of the first things you need to do is take a step back and look at your relationship from an outsider’s perspective. If you can’t remember the last time you did something special for your husband or went on a date night, then it’s time to make some changes.
Reconnect With Your Husband
Here are a few easy to implement pointers for reconnecting with your husband:
- Talk about your day: One of the best ways to connect with your husband is to talk about your day. It doesn’t have to be anything deep or meaningful, just a way to catch up with each other.
- Do something together: Reconnecting with your husband can be as simple as doing something together that you both enjoy. Whether it’s watching a movie, going for a walk, or playing a game, taking the time to do something together is a great way to reconnect.
- Be physical: Physical touch is a great way to reconnect with your husband. Whether it’s holding hands, cuddling, or sex, physical touch can help you feel connected to each other.
- Talk about your feelings: Talking about your feelings can be a great way to reconnect with your husband, and help you feel closer to each other.
Make Him Want You Again
There are many ways to make a man want you again. If you have lost touch with your man, or he has become distant, there are ways to bring him back. You don’t need to resort to desperate measures or beg and plead. All you need is some knowledge of what men want and how they think.
One of the most helpful things to do is to make sure you are being the best possible version of yourself. Men are attracted to confident, happy women. If you have lost sight of who you are, take some time for yourself. Get a new haircut, join a gym, or start a new hobby. Find things that make you happy and stick with them.
Another somewhat sneaky trick is to be a little mysterious. Men love the chase. If you seem unattainable, he will want you more.
Play hard to get and make him work for your attention. Learn more about how to make him worship the ground you walk on in this Make Him Worship You review.
How to Feel Sexy Again
Feeling sexy is not just about looking a certain way. It’s also about how you feel inside and how you present yourself to the world. If you’re feeling down on yourself, it will be hard to feel sexy. But there are things you can do to turn that around and start feeling more confident in your own skin. Which will result in turning his passion and desire back on big time!
As I just mentioned, going to the gym, or getting a haircut can you do a lot to help you feel like you look your best. Getting some sun, buying new clothes that compliment your figure, or going to the spa to get a facial or other treatments can also be a real pick me up.
And while I cannot advise you to go out there and try to get attention from other men…. If you happen to find yourself out of the bar with your girlfriends, and you notice other guys checking you out – this can definitely be a self-esteem booster that helps to put that sexy spring back in your step.
Don’t Neglect Sex and Intimacy
Sex is an important aspect of a relationship. It can be great at times and not so great at other times. In order to have better sex, you need to know how your body works and what it needs in order for you to enjoy the experience.
You may feel like after many years with your husband that you’ve already seen it all and done it at all, but you might be surprised! There are tons of books and online resources that can show you new techniques to try out in the bedroom.
Many husbands get a little bit bored with their wives sexually, simply because they have been doing the same thing over and over for 5, 10 or 30 years, or even longer!
So get yourself some sexy costumes, furry pink handcuffs, and other sex toys. Chances are your husband will really, really appreciate it.
Improve Your Communication Skills
If you want to stay in a happy, healthy and committed relationship for the long haul, it’s important that you are able to communicate openly with your partner. Neglecting this aspect of a relationship can lead to all sorts of problems down the line.
Something as simple as trying not to interrupt your partner when they are speaking, can really help. Many women don’t realize that they are constantly doing this, and it can come across as disrespectful. not to mention that it makes it difficult to really listen to what your man is saying.
Instead, try to engage in active listening, where you give your man your full attention and then reflect back what you are hearing them say. This will show that you value his thoughts and opinions.
Make Time For Your Husband
It’s no secret that with the demands of work, family, and other obligations many parents are feeling overwhelmed these days. One thing couples can do to help relieve some of that pressure is to make time for each other.
Many husbands feel neglected by their wives who have been pulled away from them because they’re busy taking care of everyone else. If you can find even just an hour or two a week to spend with your husband without the kids around, it will go a long way in making him feel loved and appreciated.
It doesn’t have to be anything fancy, either. Just sitting and talking over a cup of coffee or going for a walk together can make all the difference.
Plan Your Future Together
Planning your future together can be a great way to bond with your husband.
It’s not just about talking about the possibilities, it’s also about exploring them together. Having that person by your side as you plan for what could be is comforting and exciting at the same time. It gives you a sense of security while also providing the opportunity to have new experiences.
One great way to plan your future together is by setting goals. This can be anything from saving up for a house or a trip, to working on your relationship or starting a family. Whatever it is, having a shared goal will help you focus on what’s important and work as a team to achieve it.
Another way to plan your future together is simply by spending time together. This could be anything from taking a walk and talking about your dreams, to cuddling on the couch and watching a movie. The important thing is that you’re doing it together and enjoying each other’s company.
Stay Connected With Your Husband Going Forward
Once things are back on track with your marriage it is vitally important not to let things get out of whack all over again. A lot of this simply comes down to being mindful and paying attention to what is going on , on a day-to-day basis.
With the demands of a career, kids, and everything else that you have going on in your life it can be easy to lose track of this… Which is probably what went wrong the first time around.
Get clear on the fact that your marriage and your relationship with your husband are serious priorities in your life. Make sure of that you stay aware of what’s going on between you and put in the extra effort when necessary to keep that spark alive!
I hope you have found these tips helpful.
Often times, all it takes is a little bit of effort to get things back on track. Even if you’re feeling lost or hopeless right now, don’t give up! With a little bit of effort, you can make things better than ever.
There’s no magic answer for getting the spark back in your marriage, but these tips will definitely help!