9 Tips to Reconnect with Your Husband

couple in bed reconnecting

Reconnect and live life to the fullest

A lot of people get married and live happily ever after, but that’s not always the case. Sometimes marriages go stale or worse yet, sour. And when you start to feel like your marriage is in a rut it can be hard to know how to make things better again. But fear not! There are many ways for couples who have lost that spark to reconnect and fall in love all over again.

It’s no secret that relationships take work. But what happens when you feel like you’re doing all the work and your husband seems distant or uninterested? This can be a really tough situation to deal with, but don’t worry, you can get the spark back in your marriage!

In this blog post, we will discuss 9 tips on how to reconnect with your husband and reignite the passion in your relationship.

Understand What The “Spark” Is In A Marriage and How To Get It Back

The “spark” as its referred to, is that feeling of excitement and attraction that you experience just being around each other. And over the years it is quite common for this spark to fade, sometimes completely.

Marriage is a journey, and like any good journey, it has its ups and downs. But when you see the light at the end of the tunnel, it’s worth all the effort to get there. The key to making your marriage last for years is not about never having problems but figuring out how to work through them together as partners in life.

One of the first things you need to do is take a step back and look at your relationship from an outsider’s perspective. If you can’t remember the last time you did something special for your husband or went on a date night, then it’s time to make some changes.

Reconnect With Your Husband

Here are a few easy to implement pointers for reconnecting with your husband:

  • Talk about your day: One of the best ways to connect with your husband is to talk about your day. It doesn’t have to be anything deep or meaningful, just a way to catch up with each other.
  • Do something together: Reconnecting with your husband can be as simple as doing something together that you both enjoy. Whether it’s watching a movie, going for a walk, or playing a game, taking the time to do something together is a great way to reconnect.
  • Be physical: Physical touch is a great way to reconnect with your husband. Whether it’s holding hands, cuddling, or sex, physical touch can help you feel connected to each other.
  • Talk about your feelings: Talking about your feelings can be a great way to reconnect with your husband, and help you feel closer to each other.

Make Him Want You Again

There are many ways to make a man want you again. If you have lost touch with your man, or he has become distant, there are ways to bring him back. You don’t need to resort to desperate measures or beg and plead. All you need is some knowledge of what men want and how they think.

One of the most helpful things to do is to make sure you are being the best possible version of yourself. Men are attracted to confident, happy women. If you have lost sight of who you are, take some time for yourself. Get a new haircut, join a gym, or start a new hobby. Find things that make you happy and stick with them.

Another somewhat sneaky trick is to be a little mysterious. Men love the chase. If you seem unattainable, he will want you more.

Play hard to get and make him work for your attention. Learn more about how to make him worship the ground you walk on in this Make Him Worship You review.

How to Feel Sexy Again

Feeling sexy is not just about looking a certain way. It’s also about how you feel inside and how you present yourself to the world. If you’re feeling down on yourself, it will be hard to feel sexy. But there are things you can do to turn that around and start feeling more confident in your own skin. Which will result in turning his passion and desire back on big time!

As I just mentioned, going to the gym, or getting a haircut can you do a lot to help you feel like you look your best. Getting some sun, buying new clothes that compliment your figure, or going to the spa to get a facial or other treatments can also be a real pick me up.

And while I cannot advise you to go out there and try to get attention from other men…. If you happen to find yourself out of the bar with your girlfriends, and you notice other guys checking you out – this can definitely be a self-esteem booster that helps to put that sexy spring back in your step.

Don’t Neglect Sex and Intimacy

Sex is an important aspect of a relationship. It can be great at times and not so great at other times. In order to have better sex, you need to know how your body works and what it needs in order for you to enjoy the experience.

You may feel like after many years with your husband that you’ve already seen it all and done it at all, but you might be surprised! There are tons of books and online resources that can show you new techniques to try out in the bedroom.

Many husbands get a little bit bored with their wives sexually, simply because they have been doing the same thing over and over for 5, 10 or 30 years, or even longer!

So get yourself some sexy costumes, furry pink handcuffs, and other sex toys. Chances are your husband will really, really appreciate it.

Improve Your Communication Skills

If you want to stay in a happy, healthy and committed relationship for the long haul, it’s important that you are able to communicate openly with your partner. Neglecting this aspect of a relationship can lead to all sorts of problems down the line.

Something as simple as trying not to interrupt your partner when they are speaking, can really help. Many women don’t realize that they are constantly doing this, and it can come across as disrespectful. not to mention that it makes it difficult to really listen to what your man is saying.

Instead, try to engage in active listening, where you give your man your full attention and then reflect back what you are hearing them say. This will show that you value his thoughts and opinions.

Make Time For Your Husband

It’s no secret that with the demands of work, family, and other obligations many parents are feeling overwhelmed these days. One thing couples can do to help relieve some of that pressure is to make time for each other.

Many husbands feel neglected by their wives who have been pulled away from them because they’re busy taking care of everyone else. If you can find even just an hour or two a week to spend with your husband without the kids around, it will go a long way in making him feel loved and appreciated.

It doesn’t have to be anything fancy, either. Just sitting and talking over a cup of coffee or going for a walk together can make all the difference.

Plan Your Future Together

Planning your future together can be a great way to bond with your husband.

It’s not just about talking about the possibilities, it’s also about exploring them together. Having that person by your side as you plan for what could be is comforting and exciting at the same time. It gives you a sense of security while also providing the opportunity to have new experiences.

One great way to plan your future together is by setting goals. This can be anything from saving up for a house or a trip, to working on your relationship or starting a family. Whatever it is, having a shared goal will help you focus on what’s important and work as a team to achieve it.

Another way to plan your future together is simply by spending time together. This could be anything from taking a walk and talking about your dreams, to cuddling on the couch and watching a movie. The important thing is that you’re doing it together and enjoying each other’s company.

Stay Connected With Your Husband Going Forward

Once things are back on track with your marriage it is vitally important not to let things get out of whack all over again. A lot of this simply comes down to being mindful and paying attention to what is going on , on a day-to-day basis.

With the demands of a career, kids, and everything else that you have going on in your life it can be easy to lose track of this… Which is probably what went wrong the first time around.

Get clear on the fact that your marriage and your relationship with your husband are serious priorities in your life. Make sure of that you stay aware of what’s going on between you and put in the extra effort when necessary to keep that spark alive!

I hope you have found these tips helpful.

Often times, all it takes is a little bit of effort to get things back on track. Even if you’re feeling lost or hopeless right now, don’t give up! With a little bit of effort, you can make things better than ever.

There’s no magic answer for getting the spark back in your marriage, but these tips will definitely help!

This entry was posted on March 23, 2022, in Blogging.

Obsession, Desire, Romance And Their Meaning In Buddhism

smiling monk contemplates desireLord Buddha once said:

“Grasping at things can only yield one of two results: Either the thing you are grasping at disappears, or you yourself disappear. It is only a matter of which occurs first”

This is certainly something that I would consider well worth pondering, especially now when we are living in a consumer culture that seems obsessed with a burning desire for more and more possessions and achievements. Not to mention our sex obsessed society’s seemingly unquenchable desire for more and more empty, vapid sexual conquests.

But what does this quote really mean? It’s something that scholars and philosophers have been thinking about for centuries now… So I thought – why not share my thoughts on the meaning of this clearly very meaningful quote.

Obviously, the idea is that obsessing over things, people etc… is not a good idea, as it will inevitably lead to great suffering. When we cling to things in an anxious way this is setting us up for disaster. Let’s look at clinging in the context of a romantic relationship. When a man and a woman first meet, they may feel a completely natural sexual desire for each other. As a result of these natural, and healthy feelings they may choose to start spending time together, dating and so forth, no problem there.

The problem occurs when one of the parties in the relationship becomes overly obsessed with the other, to the point where they are spending time anxiously worrying about the possibility that they may “lose” this relationship that they have started. Interestingly enough there is even a training program for men that teaches guys how to get women to obsess over them, so that they can attract the women and keep them around. Pretty shocking stuff I know. If you are interested you can read more about it in this Obsession Formula review that has been written about it.

Why is this type of obsession so unhealthy? A couple of reasons… First, there is the fact that you can push away the person who you are obsessing over. I think that we are probably all pretty familiar with the concept that “clingy” behavior is unattractive in the context of romantic relationships, or any social or business relationship for that matter.

So when the Lord Buddha says “the thing you are grasping at disappears” I think that this is what he is talking about – the fact that your obsessive way of being pushes the object of your obsession out of your life.

But what does the Lord Buddha mean when he says “…or you yourself disappear.” Basically, what I think that he means here is that by obsessing over something, you can lose yourself. You may have experienced something like this when you were younger. Perhaps you found a new romantic partner who became the focus of your entire live. Maybe it felt like the sun rose and set over her or him. You stopped hanging out with your other friends, and stopped enjoying your hobbies and the other parts of your life that gave your life meaning. Can you see what I am getting at here? Getting obsessed with a lover, a job, a goal, or anything else is really no way to go through life.

Sure, it’s fun to get “excited” about things in your life. Focusing our attention on the things and people in our lives that we enjoy most makes a lot of sense, but we need to be mindful that this “excited focus” doesn’t become an obsession. We can do that by periodically taking a step back, going into our heart caves, and getting a little bit of healthy, detached perspective.

The Symbolic Meanings Associated With The Lotus Blossom

A spiritual flower, to say the least...

A spiritual flower, to say the least…

Out of all the beautiful flowers that cover the earth there is probably no bloom imbued with more symbolic meaning than our dear friend the lotus. Indeed, when it comes to symbolically meaningful objects the lotus is right up there with the four leaf clover, [Pandora’s box, or even the Holy Cross.

I’ve been learning about Lotuses for many years now I was recently delighted to discover that the lotus actually has several different symbolic meanings depending on it’s color (according to ancient Buddhist tradition.) According to the Buddanet website “Lotuses are symbols of purity and ‘spontaneous’ generation and hence symbolize divine birth.” And while this is probably the best known symbolic meaning that is attached to the lotus there are several other meaning that I will outline briefly in the next paragraph.

The white lotus, which is the most common variety symbolizes “Bodhi” which is described as a state of absolute spiritual perfection. Furthermore, the white Lotus’ 8 glorious petals represent the 8 fold path, which is apparently another important aspect of the religious practice of Buddhism.

The pink lotus (my personal fave) is known as the Buddha’s lotus or the “supreme lotus” among practitioners of Buddhism.

Working towards the darker side of the color spectrum we get to the vibrant red lotus, which logically corresponds heart and is a symbol of love, passion, and compassion.

Next we get to the rare and mysterious purple lotus. I know I said that the pink ones are my favorites, but really its a close call between pink and purple. Its a tough call! I had a bit of a hard time finding much good information on the meaning of the purple lotus, but evidently it is only represented symbolically among lesser known esoteric Buddhist sects.

Rounding out our selection of colorful lotuses we have the glorious blue lotus – a symbol of knowledge and wisdom.

While I enjoy learning all about these traditional symbolic meanings associated with lotuses, and honoring the past, I think that it can also be a good idea to assign your own meanings that are personal and meaningful to you.

Everything You Ever Wanted To Know About The Lotus Flower


Behold the humble lotus…

The Lotus, Indian Lotus, or in scientific terms, Nelumbo nucifera, is a kind of aquatic flower native to Asia and Queensland, Australia.

Lotuses thrive in water and are considered “perennial” plants because they live for two years or more. They come in a variety of colors with pink, red, and white being the most popular and most commonly seen varieties all around the world.

Is It Possible To Grow A Lotus Flower In Your Own Home?

As mentioned. the lotus is an aquatic flower. In its natural habitat, a lotus seed will go to the bottom of the body of water and sprout from underneath. Raising lotuses within the comforts of your home can be tricky but can be done.

When you get your lotus seed, you must first scar it to ensure healthy growth. Find a medium to large flower pot, fill it up with water and allow your seed to swell up during its first soak. It is important to note that instead of watering your seed everyday, you must change its water. When the first sprout has started to emerge and grow slightly, you must transfer your seed into a new pot. Fill the new pot with dense soil. At this stage, it is crucial to anchor your seed to ensure that it does not accidentally float to the surface. Plant the seed into the surface of the soil, making sure that it covered enough so that it doesn’t float, but also being mindful that it is not stifled. Gently place your flower pot in shallow water and allow your flower to grow on its own.

India’s National Flower

As India’s national flower, the lotus lends not only its beauty, but its significance in Indian culture as well. It makes a remarkable and consistent appearance in Hinduism as a symbol of sexual purity and overcoming the attachment for humanly desires. Hindu gods and goddesses in Hindu artworks are seldom depicted with lotuses surrounding them.

The Lotus in Popular Culture

Because it symbolizes detachment, the lotus has expanded to many facets of art. Adorning your home pond with lotuses or even your home with lotus artworks can promote an ambiance of tranquility and stillness that creates a calm and serene environment.

Many people also choose have the famous flower inked on their skin. Apart from its apparent beauty and graceful features, many say that having it permanently inked on their skin serves as reminders of calmness, enlightenment, and letting go.

Is The Lotus Edible?

It turns out that lotus flowers, seeds, root and young leaves are all edible (however I suggest consulting a Dr. first just to be safe. We are not responsible for anything that amy happen if you eat a lotus!).

In the US lotuses have yet to catch on as a food source, but some trendy restaurants are incorporating  lotuses into their menus. I recently dined at an upscale lounge where I was served a seafood dish that was garnished with fried lotus root and it was quite tasty! It reminded me of potato chips.

In Asia however lotuses are widely used in everything from salads to soups and they are even used in traditional Asian herbal medicine.